Don't 'Retrain Your Brain.' Just Trick It.

I've been involved in many men's help sites. PUA sites for those in the know.

When you get down to the essence of their teachings, they offer very similar advice in terms of overcoming fears of rejection, and the pain that can cause.

Here's a recent example from a site called
www.Girldatingtips.com :
http://www.girldatingtips.com/articles/seduction/Act-Naturally.shtml

Act Naturally - self meditation to flush out your negative thoughts with positive ones.

I don't know about all men, but when you start talking to me about relaxation, self meditation, hypnosis methods to retrain my psyche, I turnoff. I've tried it, doesn't work for me.

I have a much simpler solution. Don't 'retrain the brain,' just trick it.

Your inner psyche, those core inner hopes and fears of the inner child among us all, are real. To take the time and effort to reprogram those old experiences doesn't take 'working on yourself.' It take new positive ones to flush them away.

So trick your psyche. Approach people in persona. Using the props offered in eBooks like 'The Greatest Ice Breaker Ever.' Got shutdown? No...YOU didn't. Your lame little prop did. Or you, as an entertainer did. Not you. It's not you..you AS THE ENTERTAINER did.

See? Psyche's intact.

What's more...you can reframe your experiences as practice, mastering your routine, not 'did you succeed with every woman you met with tonight.'

To push this example to new extremes, I'll try new crazy things all the time, just to see what will happen. I don't see bad experiences as 'failures,' just learnings. And they make for great stories.

Couple funny examples - my friend was talking to some really drunk chick at a bar a few years ago. He asked me to show her my ice breaker. I rolled my eyes and thought, 'wow this girl probably can't even remember her own name,' but then a sense of experimentation took over. Give it a shot.

So I did. Know what she did? She tore up the little props, looked at me and said, ' okay there you go...now put them back together.'

I was amused! I thought - 'wow, I've never seen that reaction before.' I have multiple sets, so losing one isn't a big deal. My friend on the other hand, not hip to any sense of experiementation, went nuts on her butt. Started calling her all sorts of weird names 'trailer trash,' etc. The bouncer came over to us and asked if he'd need to be escorted out.

The lesson? You're dealing with random people...you're going to get all sorts of random responses! Some not great...but interesting.

See? My psyche wasn't touched. I was offering something to her 'as an entertainer' for the first thirty seconds, to gauge the vibe on my end. Bad vibe? Cool - I'll move on.

No self-meditation working through my inner negativity could've possibly replaced that experience!

So get out there. Tell your psyche and who you are that you can continue to be who you are...doubting, concerned, worried about shutdowns, rejection. Then put on your 'entertainer mask,' and give this new role a shot.

- Razr