The Dangers of Scarcity Thinking.

We often get caught up in our current reality, the curent context were in. As bad as things might be, changing it or removing elements is far scarier than 'going without.'

For guys, especially guys in their early-mid twenties, we often stay in bad relationships far too long. Someone who's a descructive force on our lives, brings us down, sucks our cash, etc., because we're afraid of 'going without.'

Understandably so. In our current context, our current vibe, things are as good as they'll ever get. From past experience, it could take weeks, even months, to go out on another date. We aren't the chooser - we tell ourselves 'girls choose us.'

So we 'stick it out,' try to 'resolve our issues,' 'work through our problems,' with one of the following character types:

hot chick-but-bad attitude, great sex-but-headcase, supportive-but-needy, caring-but-bitchy, etc.

(Any of these quick snapshots connect with you? You reading this Peter Brady?)

That frame is harmful, destructive.

But it often comes from a scarcity mentality - thinking, 'I don't know when the next girl is going to come along.'

I think this can even be the problem for bigger things - failed relationships often lead to bad marriages. Thinking marriage will fix it, give her what she wants so there will be some peace, or simply things will change. 'They have to'.

But let's start from the source of the problem - 'scarcity thinking.'

If we could have a way to change things - to no longer wait until the right girl comes along, or even just 'any girl' comes along, but to take the reins, get out there and meet any woman on our terms - we know we can choose the right relationship, the most fulfilling relationship to be in. If things start to suck and don't appear to have opportunity for improvement, you can move on, without fear.

That's what this powerful ice breaker really gives guys. Probably the greatest injection of confidence you can have....that you can talk to and engage anyone you want to. You don't have to settle.

Let's bring the divorce rate down, the misery index down, by dialing up our own power.

- Razr